Comments on: 5 Secrets of a Successful Marriage

By: Rachel Heller

Rachel Heller — Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:24:00 +0000

I think there are plenty of good reasons for divorce – and I’m the one who wrote this article! “Why can’t women just stay married to a man because he can’t live without her”? Really? How is that her responsibility?

By: Mary Powers

Mary Powers — Sun, 24 Sep 2023 21:50:18 +0000

Divorces are so very overrated nowadays! Why can’t women just stay married to a man because he can’t live without her and can’t take of himself live each day in the springtime in harmony! No more divorce lawyers nada!

By: Tokyo Five

Tokyo Five — Wed, 13 Jun 2018 06:20:04 +0000

My wife and I also celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary a couple of months ago. I think your personalities are why your points worked for you. I think the secret of a long, happy marriage is that my wife and I are similar on important issues (child-rearing, moral beliefs, how / what to spend money (on), etc.) but we’re unique and different on many non-vital things such as hobbies. We also sincerely enjoy spending our time together.

Anyways, congratulations on your long, successful marriage!

By: Rachel Heller

Rachel Heller — Tue, 12 May 2015 08:03:19 +0000

In reply to Katy Hammel. You're probably right. I did wonder as I was writing this whether the fact that we do these things is because of our particular personalities and temperaments, rather than because of any conscious decision. That's why I put in the disclaimer: your mileage may vary.

By: Rachel Heller

Rachel Heller — Tue, 12 May 2015 07:59:19 +0000

In reply to wim reimert. Like!

By: wim reimert

wim reimert — Mon, 11 May 2015 18:55:58 +0000

It almost looked as if you were describing our marriage Rachel and ours already lasts for nearly 40 years.

By: Katy Hammel

Katy Hammel — Mon, 11 May 2015 17:49:38 +0000

There’s nothing particularly wrong with these five keys, but they only work when they work. They may be times when you can’t make a deal. There may be times when balance can’t be achieved, or respect is lost. This listing makes me think of working with children and specifically discipline strategies with children — good strategies will work perhaps 85% of the time … but there’s always that other 15% …

By: Suzanne Fluhr

Suzanne Fluhr — Mon, 11 May 2015 17:25:04 +0000

We’ll celebrate our 33rd wedding anniversary in a few weeks. We learned to read each other. We have both had demanding careers—physician-scientist and attorney. We were pretty good at recognizing who was more stressed at work at any particular time and would step up to try to relieve the other at home. We always put our money in the same operating account and I’ve been in charge of making sure the bills are paid—initially, that decision was based on my having better handwriting for writing checks—-you know, back when people wrote checks regularly. After 33 years, we have been through so much of life together (shared joys and shared sorrows) that I am immensely grateful to have had this relationship. I don’t take it for granted for one second. As empty nesters, we now have more time to devote to us as a couple. It’s sweet.

By: Shobha

Shobha — Mon, 11 May 2015 16:23:33 +0000

I agree about most of the points above – especially respect. Very important to maintain respect. I’m not sure about keeping money separate though. We’re fine with keeping money in joint accounts. I guess it helps that neither of us are particularly material so we don’t overspend or have issues on what to spend. I would hate to have my spending questioned though.